Tag: Childless

Your body is a wonderland. Shut up John Mayer.

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If your car is abandoned you probably won’t spend a lot of time and effort washing and waxing it….Well, not the greatest analogy….but there are days when I wonder why I even think about eating healthy or taking care of myself because quite honestly, I am angry at the shell of a body I am living in. The most basic thing. Women for a gazillion years (I verified this on the internet) have been getting pregnant and having children. Gazillions of years. And…..then…..me. Something is broken inside and let’s be honest, something is broken inside.

For some reason, the workouts and healthy eating used to feel like the right thing to do because I was taking care of what would soon hold precious cargo. Over the years though I’ve changed my routine and it has affected me physically. I am not sure if the blah that has become my body is because I am getting older or because I just stopped caring. It is probably a little of both but I am leaning toward the latter.

I need to stop blaming everything on infertility. It is hard not to though. For now, I will try to stay away from the candy jar (my weakness) and choose meals that aren’t covered in some delicious gravy…or bread…or pasta…. I will start working on my physical health so I have energy to battle what’s going on in my head.

Ok, now what?

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About a week ago I posted thoughts surrounding my journey of infertility. Thank you to everyone who took the time to read the lengthy post but also to comment and “like”. My heart was so full reading the supportive comments and the kind words to me and my cutie hubby. Almost as soon as I posted, I started seeing your supportive words….but something else happened….something that isn’t visible on Facebook. I started getting phone calls, text messages, emails and private messages from friends who had struggled with the same heartbreak and mourned silently…other people ask me if they could share the post with their daughter or neighbor or friend….other people who had no idea how many triggers there are in an infertile person’s world….other people who said that the post captured exactly what they had been trying to say for years….other people who had finally accepted that it wasn’t going to happen for them and were just like me – trying to find peace.

Many of you asked about the book….> Living the Life Unexpected: 12 Weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfilling Future Without Children by Jody Day, my new personal hero. It is only available on bookdepository.com right now. She also has a group called Gateway-Women (based out of the UK) which has great info. I am not “over it” but I now have a plan.

This is no longer a sob story. This is about me feeling empowered. This is about me taking over. I am honored to have you as part of my tribe. I am looking toward the future. And I am taking you with me.